Sympiphany
You Got Ghosted. Now What?
Being ghosted stings. But the science says it's usually inertia, not cruelty — and there's a practical protocol for both sides. Here's exactly what to do when a connection goes silent.
Ren Castillo·Belonging
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Ren Castillo·
Having a Baby Is a Social Earthquake
Having a baby is one of the most joyful things in a life — and one of the most socially disruptive. Here's the science behind the friendship fade, why new-parent bonds form so fast, and a practical framework for building the village from scratch.
Mika Torres·
Why Your Sibling Feels Like a Stranger
Sibling bonds are the longest relationships most of us will ever have — yet adult drift is nearly universal. Here's the science behind why it happens, and a practical playbook for reinvesting before the distance becomes permanent.
Mika Torres·
There's Science in the Sanctuary
Faith communities produce some of the most durable social bonds on earth. The mechanisms behind them — awe, synchronized ritual, meaning-infused service — are well-documented social science. Here's the playbook, for believers and non-believers alike.
Mika Torres·
The Crowd Is the Concert
Fandom gets dismissed as parasocial noise — but the science says something different. Here's what happens in a crowd of people who love the same thing, and why your fellow fan might be the most underrated connection opportunity in your life.
Dani Okafor·
Sweat Is Social Glue
Your rec league isn't just a workout. Here's the science behind why group physical activity is one of the most powerful community-building tools available — and a practical checklist for turning sweat sessions into actual belonging.
Mika Torres·
The Table Is the Point
You could have grabbed takeout alone. Instead, you stayed. Here's why eating together does something to humans that no other shared activity quite replicates — and how to use it deliberately.
Dani Okafor·
Your First Friend Was Your First Teacher
Your earliest friendships were doing invisible developmental work — and the science says what they taught you still shapes every connection you'll ever make. Here's what childhood social bonds reveal about the hidden grammar of closeness.
Sage Lindgren·
Your Social Life Has a Blind Spot. It's Called Mentorship.
Most people invest in friendships and family — and overlook the one developmental relationship research says shapes us most. Here's the science behind mentorship bonds, and five practical moves to build yours.
Jules Nakamura·
Found Family Is Real Family
Your chosen family might matter more than your biological one — and the science agrees. Here's how chosen families actually form, why they work, and how to deliberately build yours.
Jules Nakamura·
You Don't Need 50 Friends
The pressure to be socially abundant misses the point. Here's what neuroscience says about the power of a small, close circle — and why introverts' deepest instincts may be better calibrated than they've been told.
Sage Lindgren·
The Social Cliff Nobody Warns You About
Retirement, loss, and life transitions quietly dismantle the structures that kept us socially wired. Here's what the science says actually works — and a practical checklist for building meaningful connection in later life.
Mika Torres·
Talk to Strangers. Seriously.
Your barista probably liked that conversation more than you think — and the science backs it up. Here's what research on weak ties and the "liking gap" means for your Tuesday morning routine.
Jules Nakamura·
The Lunchroom Never Leaves You
How connected your teenager feels at school turns out to predict their mental health for a decade. Here's what the research says — and what adults in their lives can actually do about it.
Dani Okafor·
Your Neighborhood Is a Social Machine (You Just Need to Use It)
Your neighborhood is packed with connection infrastructure — parks, clubs, events, and programs. Here's a practical framework for actually plugging in and using it.
Ren Castillo·